Whether you love meeting new people at social gatherings or whether you hate it; either way, your ability to build rapport with others or the lack of it is what determines your success in creating fruitful conversations.
Rapport is that connection of trust and familiarity that creates meaningful conversations between you and your friend. With rapport, you can share your ideas, feelings, or even disagreements freely and sincerely. You have been naturally building rapport with others your whole life, although most likely you have been doing it unconsciously! Allow me to offer you 3 easy steps to build rapport consciously and on purpose by using NLP.
Pay attention and notice if they favour more visual, auditory or kinesthetic words; in NLP we call it “Preferred Representational System”. Then, use more of those words as you speak to them. Here are some examples of the words and phrases that you can use according to their preferred representational system:
Important Tip: As you match and mirror, make sure you do so subtly, so that it stays out of the other person’s awareness. Otherwise, you might break rapport if they notice you are mimicking them.
You are all set now; go ahead, build rapport and have fun in the process!
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