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“What is NLP?” is the most common question in our field and yet the trickiest to answer, as Neuro-Linguistic Programming™ is one of those things that you need to have experienced in order to understand what you can do with it. Notice that I said “what YOU can do with it” and not “what IT can do for you”. I’ll come back to this later.

Let’s begin with how it all began

If you read up on the history of Neuro-Linguistic Programming™ you will come across numerous versions and anecdotes (depending on the source) on how it all came about; these stories will always include two key figures: Richard Bandler (now known as the father and the co-founder of NLP) and John Grinder (co-creator), as well as a bunch of other people who were involved or contributed in some ways to the development of this field. So here’s the story in a nutshell.

Once upon a time, there was this genius guy named Richard Bandler, together with John Grinder, he studied a few therapists who were exceptionally successful in assisting their clients in overcoming their problems. From their observations Bandler and Grinder were able to distil linguistic, behavioural and methodical patterns used by those therapists and combine those patterns into a model of therapy, which subsequently could be successfully taught to others and enabled them to achieve the same results.

By the way, this process is known as NLP Modelling – “Show me what you do and I’ll tell you how you do it.” The idea here is that we are all born with the same neurology, same senses and physiological abilities; so if somebody can do something really well, so can you. The reason some individuals excel at certain tasks is because they utilize their abilities in a different way. Modelling allows us to find out what exactly those people think, see, feel or say to themselves and how they behave when performing those tasks excellently. In other words, we create a model of excellence and teach it to you. You can utilize this model to improve your own performance and produce the same results.

Following this principle of Modelling, Richard Bandler later on also modelled people who excelled in other areas, for instance sales or public speaking, or people who were able to get rid of their phobia. He created a methodology – a set of certain skills and techniques – which were taught in workshops and proved to be exceptionally effective. Later on, Richard Bandler called it Neuro-Linguistic Programming™ and ta-dah – the term NLP was coined.

Watch Richard Bandler explaining it in his own words.

Is NLP for everybody?

Basically yes, it can be for anybody. It can be applied in any area where there’s a factor of human interaction present. Let me give you a few examples to help you relate it to your own life.
Perhaps, you have a certain habit you wish to get rid off, for instance, constantly shaking your leg when sitting down, chewing on pens (even if they are somebody else’s), getting very nervous when you need to talk to your boss, procrastinating until the very last moment and then dealing with the stress of having too little time to finish all the tasks and so on and so forth. Most likely you have said to yourself dozens of times that you should quit doing it, and perhaps you have even tried to change, but old habits die hard, right? So this is where Neuro-Linguistic Programming™ comes in. Habits are programs run by your unconscious mind; they are difficult to change, because you do most of the things unconsciously and you need to ‘speak’ the language of your unconscious mind in order to make a change.

How does it work?

There are dozens of definitions of NLP, one of my favourites is “a user manual for your brain.” Each of us possesses this; the most sophisticated machine in existence a.k.a. the brain. And yet it doesn’t come with instructions on how to use it. And while the human mind still remains (and probably always will) mysterious, some secrets of its functions can be unlocked with NLP; enough to simplify the perceived complexity of your reality and to enable you to be more in charge of your life.

You see, any experience you’ve ever had is your own interpretation of the information you received through your sensory channels. In other words, an experience is what you saw, heard, felt, tasted or smelled. Some experiences you have unconsciously categorized as positive and others as negative. And all your behaviours, be it how you feel, what you think or what you do, you have programmed to match those experiences. Some of which serve you well and others heavily limit you in achieving what you want. Neuro–Linguistic Programming™ teaches you to understand and speak the language of your unconscious mind and ‘re-program’ those useless habits and beliefs that you have.

Is it only for therapists and coaches?

As mentioned previously, it can be applied in any field and any area where human interaction is involved. As long as human communication happens, NLP is applicable. The reason why it has become so popular and such a must-have skill in coaching and therapy is because of all the existing approaches, Neuro-Linguistic Programming™ offers perhaps the most effective method to create an immediate and long-lasting positive change.

Use it or lose it

Is NLP really that effective and powerful? Yes, it is! Well, it CAN be and it depends on YOU. If you are in a possession of the best car you can imagine, but you never drive it; will you get any benefit from possessing it? No, you won’t get anywhere until you start driving it. The same is true here, in itself it’s just a method to change yourself and improve the quality of your life, but if you never apply it, it will only remain dormant data in your brain. Even if after attending an NLP Practitioner course and learning all the skills and techniques, you choose to act the same old way, you’ll keep getting the results you’ve always gotten and nothing will improve. However, if you choose to practice what you have learnt in your Practitioner course and apply it in real life situations, then everything is possible for what you can achieve. That’s why I said ‘what You can do with it’ and not ‘what IT can do for you’.

Is all Neuro-Linguistic Programming the same?

Due to the rapidly growing popularity of this field, there are more and more self-proclaimed authorities popping up, claiming to be an expert in this field and to provide quality training and certification. Some of the content trained in such programs is either of poor quality, completely outdated or not even Neuro-Linguistic Programming to start with. Many apply the label “NLP” to weird and wonderful ideas, concepts and techniques, only some of which come close to the original concept. Hence, if you wish to learn quality NLP choose your training provider wisely [Choosing an NLP Practitioner].

As for Richard Bandler, he is constantly enhancing and improving his NLP and still trains and inspires thousands of people around the world. You can learn Pure NLP™ either from him directly or from one of the trainers licensed by him. This way you are guaranteed to learn authentic skills and techniques.

As I mentioned already, you simply need to experience it.

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